I have only known two students to go to Harvard College. The first student went to pre-med at Harvard because his parents wanted its label on his degree. The second student, who graduated this year went to Harvard College for the research opportunities that Harvard provides. We had about 120 in our final year of high school. Number 4 is a medical lecturer, number 3 is a Professor in Nursing. Number 2 was in finance and retired and married a model before she turned 35.
Walking away will work every time. The narc script says that the narc controls you, and if you walk away it shows he or she does not- cue shock. What does not work- “standing up” to a narc, by which I mean calling the narc on his behaviour , objecting, making a fuss. That is attention- negative attention, but any attention will do for the narc, and you have just shown the narc how to upset you- so he will do it over and over. Narcs don’t change, or improve, or ever start to treat you better. Getting away is the only thing that works.
I know that is difficult- it means giving up on your dream of a relationship with this narc, and at the beginning it was all so perfect. But that is all it was, a dream, and the narc simply conned you into loving him. He never loved you back, and never will, so escape is , sadly, your only option. And that will shock him to his core. It will not change him, not one iota- he will treat his next supply exactly as he treats you. But you will be gone, and happy, and will not care. There is no shock treatment that will work to improve your narc, unfortunately.
Please learn about the disorder so you can see why I say this, and why your escape is the only option if you want a happy life. Since every narc is the same, one book will do it. I always recommend Prepare to be Tortured (the price you will pay for dating a narcissist) . AB Jamieson, on Amazon. It is a good general guide and will tell you all you need to know, and it covers narcs as friends and colleagues and relatives, which is useful – there are a lot about. It is also good on the red flags, so you can spot narcs in future and stay well away.
I live in a rural area, so when I say my neighbor, it’s not like he’s right next door. This person lives around 300 feet away, with woods in between us. One day we were walking by, and he was outside, talking on the phone to someone with whom he was obviously very upset. He was talking quite loudly, and he said, “Don’t think I won’t do it. I’ve killed before and I will kill again.” I thought he was just blowing steam, but then the neighbor on the other side of him, who had also heard him, decided to Google him, and sure enough, the man had been in prison for several years for murder. The neighbor who found out said to me, “Maybe I should’ve done some deeper research before I moved here.”
Our top I believe grows flowers. Used to work with Gates and Jobs. Headed a team that designed CPU’s two guesses which one. Forced by his wife to quit when couldn’t name his children correctly! Long hours take toll on you and the family but forgetting both your daughters names and ages show what his priorities were and why his wife put her foot down! If you’re younger than 20 years old on July 1st, 2021, and if you’re still enrolled in high-school by December, 2020, you can participate. Your college admission date has nothing to do with your eligibility.